My Not So Perfect But Fabulous Life

using my big words to inspire… & hopefully make a difference

Drama Mama! January 16, 2010

Filed under: Being Positive,Drama,Just Say No! — MDunbar @ 10:28 pm

No Drama Mama!

Today we are on the second stage of Cocooning. During this process we are asked to reflect on our lives and consider what is working and what is not. This is a time when we must be honest and gentle with ourselves. This is hugely important. I know that I can fool myself into believing whatever I want for the sake of preservation and  that perception is reality but this is the time when we must truly look at what is going on in our lives. It is so easy to see what is NOT working in our lives but it is important that we look at what is working. We need to give ourselves props when we are doing things right.

Miller says there are only two things that we can control and she is right, our thoughts and our actions. I know that (when I am rested) I can focus my thoughts on the positive, no matter how desperate the situation may seem, and I can handle situations much better. I am more patient, kind, loving and helpful. I work better when I am positive.

I must confess that situations can spin South easily for me. It is a struggle that I don’t always win. I fall prey to friends circumstances and sometimes even to gossip and rumors. It’s the South. Home of, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, come sit next to me” and only in my recent adulthood have I become comfortable saying, ” I don’t appreciate you talking about that person.” I am by no means a saint but I will give myself credit for trying. I am focusing on the positive as best I can.

For the next 30 days I am going to say no to drama. I can’t keep it from happening but I can prevent it from spreading. I am going to opt to see the positive. The song in my head? “Always look on the bright side of life.” Monty Python rules!