The only normal people are the ones you don’t know very well. Joe Ancis
Like it or not, I have pretty much been who I am all of my life. I am the cheesy, blue skies, silver lining kind of girl. I love giving back and helping others achieve something of importance and I truly love people. These things come easily to me but often my feelings get hurt because I get too emotionally vested or someone is just mean. I don’t understand why there are women out there who thrive on talking down or making others feel bad. I guess that is why growing up, I always had more guy friends. My husband is my best friend. He knows me so well and accepts me for the crazy person I am.
I am also incredibly blessed to have some really close girlfriends that I can’t even tell you how important they are to me. The commonality that we have is we are all strong-willed, honest folks. None of us pretend to be anything we are not, for better or for worse. It is so freeing to live this way. We are authentic, and can be completely crazy at times, but no matter what, we are honest and supportive of one another. I owe so much to these special women. I don’t know where I would be without them.
This part of the book is about living intentionally. Miller says there are three things to help us get back to who we really are. Our authentic selves.
- Reveal: a part of us to others. Let others know that we aren’t perfect.
- Respond: Listen with our hearts and respond with actions.
- Relax: Get comfortable. Let down the barriers that prevent us from being real.
I can tell you that even though some are put off by the fact that I have no pretenses and am totally honest about who I am, I would rather live with who I am and know that person, than lose myself in a persona that wasn’t real. One of my favorite characters is Elle Woods from Legally Blond. She is very “Malibu Barbie” but she knows who she is, she is genuinely nice to everyone, and she is truly authentic. The confidence in who she is makes her so likable and her attitude in infectious. Even those who ridicule her come to love her for her supportive, friendly ways.
“Believing in yourself never goes out of style.” Elle Woods
Life is too short and I want to be present in ever aspect. C.S. Lewis said it best, “We are what we believe we are.”
Who are you?